Sex

Ramachandran offers the idea that some of our vocalization ability, music, and, indeed, the rudiments of language, developed as part of our courtship rituals. A gestural language and vocalization allowed early humans to express and share emotions and to woo a mate. “Croonin’ a toon,” as Ramachandran says, rose in sophistication as our mirror neurons likewise developed. When one of our ancestors had an idea that went beyond the usual emotions or gonadic gratification, it had the opportunity to be transmitted quickly throughout the tribe and to neighboring tribes. Once we were able to express these ideas in real language, they spread even faster and had a snowball effect.

The development of mirror neurons began with sex, so that’s as good a place as any to push the speculation. Let’s say that these brain areas developed in part through natural selection. That is, they tended to aid the survival of the species. Apart from fleeing hungry carnivores, survival generally means reproducing, courtship, nesting, and providing the means to feed offspring. In short, these are the fundaments of a cultural code—all pretty much based in sex. The appearance of mirror neurons, for whatever reason, really made sex more complex, interesting, and raised it to eros—to the level of art. The human who could best express his or her emotions and urgency of rutting would get laid the most and pass on the linguistic, croonin’, mirror neuron genes.

When the great leap forward jumped ahead, suddenly the neurology designed for effective courtship became something that we used to create metaphor and develop language skills. We used it to create religion, politics, and society. It appears that the fundaments of human communication, in almost every area of life, are based in our sex drive. Civilization itself may be one big courtship ritual. On a deep neurological level, it may well be that most things produced by humans were created as an attempt, directly or indirectly, to get laid. The Mona Lisa, the Great Pyramid of Giza, toasters, packing peanuts, computers, and, quite possibly, books. The Eiffel Tower, very likely. Religion and politics, no doubt. And all the entities that we can conceive of, invoke, or evoke are based in the neurology that we use for wooing a mate.

Indeed, entities seem to be a very direct part of the human courtship dance.

Almost every human on Planet Earth has another person living inside. That other person is our own Inner Babe. The Inner Babe is the projected complement of our identity and is just as real as God, Santa Claus, or the President of the United States. When we meet someone who demonstrates enough of the qualities of our Inner Babe, a cascade of neurochemical change begins, eventually leading to that confusing and blissful state of consciousness called “love.” The Inner Babe is not exactly an ideal form in the sense that Joe might have had a thing for slim young women with dark hair. Or that he deeply appreciated a firm round ass packed into tight jeans. While these may have been factors in the arousal of Joe’s undeniable lust, it must be noted that recognition of the Inner Babe is more often based on subtle behavioral cues: a tone of voice, a tilt of the head, a repeated pattern of eye movements, a way of breathing, a whiff of pheromone, or a certain rhythm of movement. The cues just start to add up and—wham! The immediate effects of the neurochemical cocktail include rapid heartbeat, changes in breathing, distortions in perception of time, feelings of euphoria, and full-on sexual arousal…. When two humans mistake each other for their Inner Babes and begin to bond through social rituals, the feedback loop can accelerate quickly. Many panic at this stage and some bail out. The intensity of sensation suddenly opens the mind to neurological change. Neurons find new directions for their signals. Perceptions become imprinted on the brain. A touch can linger forever, long after the physical contact is gone, a chance word can become a reason
to exist.²

The Inner Babe may be a close relative of other imaginary friends found in psychological lore, including the anima or animus, the female archetype found in the male mind and the male archetype found in the female. The Inner Babe is more personal. He or she is a sort of entity template that your mind creates from the anima/animus, processed through your mirror neurons to include behaviors, presuppositions, and ideomotor movements based on your own neurology. The Inner Babe is woohoo itself, the very form of an entity most likely to draw your attention, hold your fascination, and turn you on.

One common approach to sex magick involves partners imagining each other in the roles of gods or goddesses. The ritual becomes a metaphor for union with the deity, a form of invocation enhanced by the natural tendencies and drives of sex. That is, desire for your partner becomes ardor for your god or goddess. The physical involvement and intense feelings encourage neurological change that supports the invocation.

Sex obviously scores highly on the intensity scale. All the physiological factors contribute to intense states that can stimulate neuroplasticity in a big way. As the intensity and duration of arousal increase, even more woohooful states can be achieved that can be turned toward magical tasks. Orgasm itself induces a moment or three of sweeping neuroplasticity. Several forms of traditional sex magick are based on utilizing the process of arousal and orgasm.

If a man ardently wishes a force or power into being and guards this wish from the instant that he penetrates into the woman until the instant that he withdraws from her, his wish is necessarily fulfilled.—Paschal Beverly Randolph³

If the wished-for “force or power” is an aspect of the man’s (or woman’s) own consciousness—a state, a desired quality, a change in behavior, and corresponding change in the world around him or her—then this may make neurological sense. If that same force or power is represented as a mind-state via the mirror neurons, then we have a means to imprint the complex, subtle, and lasting experiences of a god or goddess on our neurology. The following exercise provides a demonstration of one way to develop and maintain mind-states while dramatically building up intensity. Remember: the more woohoo, the better you will do!

Exercise A1.1 Sex God/desses

 

Partners banish the ritual space using Expansion/Contraction breathing, the Lesser Banishing Ritual of the Entities, or a traditional method they may be familiar with.

 

Cooperating together, partners use any of the methods previously described in this book to create two godforms (Instant God/dess, Instant Empowerment, Mastery Technique, or Group Meta-Deity). These can be chosen to be compatible with each other in whatever way the partners deem appropriate. For instance, if the partners are heterosexual, one entity can be male, the other female. If the entities are developed to the point where they have their own legends and backstory, it may help if the stories predispose them to yearn for each other. Both partners need to be fully aware of the form and attributes of both deities.

 

Each partner steps into one of the godforms and “becomes” the god/dess.

 

Articles of clothing or other adornment may be chosen as anchors to identify the deities. These may or may not have some symbolic value relating to the nature of the entities, including colors, symbols, etc. If possible, they should be acquired for and used only for this purpose. These can be put on when the partners step into the entities and worn until the end of the ritual.

 

Partners relate to each other in godforms. They may speak to each other in the voices of the gods, but will refrain from addressing each other in normal human ways. They will address each other with the names of the gods, if known, but not their human names. In all ways partners relate to each other as god/desses.

 

Within the ritual space, partners spend some time engaging in shared activities. Possibilities include eating together, dancing together, chanting together, or playing music together (always as the deities). Activities can be chosen that are specific to the entities, if possible.

 

Always maintaining awareness of each other as deities, partners may begin foreplay.

 

When both are fully aroused, they may begin a sexual act that will eventually lead to orgasms. This may or may not include penetration, at the discretion of the partners—a detail preferably decided in advance. Partners maintain this act for at least half an hour, building intensity and then slowing down again repeatedly. Concentration and devotion to the other as a god/dess is maintained throughout.

 

At a given signal, intensity is built to a climax, and concentration on the godforms is continued during and after orgasm.

 

Partners then disengage, step out of their godforms and remove any associated adornment or anchors.

 

Godforms are reabsorbed.

 

The ritual space is then banished again.

 

Partners then withdraw from the ritual area and discuss or contemplate their experiences.

Our godforms can come closer to the ideal, woohoo-inspiring forms of our Inner Babes by accessing some of the physiological components associated with the mirror neuron system. Humans have any number of social rituals designed to activate mirror neurons and create a sense of rapport. We do these almost automatically, when we greet each other, when we share with each other, and when we make love. The more fully we engage in these rituals, the more we use our mirror neurons to blur the boundaries between ourselves. As you’ll find out in the exercise below, you already know these rituals. Here are some ways to increase intensity, duration, and novelty.

Exercise A1.2 Mirror Neuron Warm-ups

 

With your partner, agree on three shared experiences that are acceptable to both of you. In each of these experiences, you will engage in behavior that naturally puts you into identical kinesthetic experience. For instance, in a handshake both partners feel contact of skin on skin in the same place on the same hand. In making a toast, both partners share the same feeling of a glass in the same hand as they make the same movement and say the same thing. These behaviors may or may not include physical contact. Some general examples are given below; fill in the specifics with your partner. (What kind of handshake? What toast? Etc.):

 
• Handshake
 
• Toast
 
• High five
 
• Shoulder clasping
 
• Salute
 
• Waving hello or goodbye
 
• Hugging
 
• Dance steps
 
• Yoga partner stretch
 
• “Eskimo nose rubbing”
 
• Kissing

 

Perform each behavior first at regular speed, then in slow motion, as slow as you can make it. As you perform the behavior, be aware of matching your partner’s physiology as much as possible and making sure that you are moving or touching your partner with exactly the same motion or touch that he or she is using. If your palm is touching his or hers in a handshake, make sure that both of you are using exactly the same amount of skin contact and the exact position of palm.

 

Both partners take a few moments to reflect and discuss their experiences.⁴

Once you have established a powerful flow of information, both conscious and unconscious, between each other using the natural mechanisms of neurology, you can use that flow to evoke a state entity. This requires a good deal of concentration, but will often begin to feel very easy when a strong state of rapport has been established. The Sex Flow Entity is one of the most woohooful evocation methods outlined in this book.

Exercise A1.3 Sex Flow Entity

 

Partners observe each other carefully and begin to match, as best as possible, in a comfortable and relaxed manner:

 
• Breathing—match rate, depth, and part of the lungs being used.
 
• Facial expressions—match muscle tension or relaxation, mouth position, eye positions and movements, head tilt, and any observable facial movements.
 
• Posture—match overall position (sitting, standing, etc.), curvature or erectness of spine, and neck and head position relative to spine.
 
• Speech—match rhythm, tonality, pitch, and volume of speech.
 
• Hands—match gestures, movements, position, and muscle tension or relaxation.

 

While continuing to match as much as possible, partners begin foreplay, moving slowly, initiating and mirroring movements as in the Mirror Neuron Warm-ups.

 

When both partners are fully aroused and ready for more, they may move on to the main event, moving very slowly into an easily maintained face-to-face position of their choice, continuing to mirror and match as much as possible.

 

Partners match each other in a slow rhythm that will allow them to maintain for at least half an hour.

 

Continuing movement, each develops an energy flow as in previous exercises and accentuates it in whatever way proves to be most enjoyable.

 

Partners explain their flows to each other, describing size, color, movement, direction, and location. Language may be, of necessity, simplified for this purpose and may be supported with gesture and touch.

 

Partners collaborate on a way to join the energy flows. This is accomplished by letting one flow into the other so that it becomes one single energy flow moving through both people. Let each individual determine what it looks and feels like when it is inside them; just link the cycle of the flow.

 

Intensify the flow by breathing more deeply, increasing range or speed of movement, or anything else that adds intensity to the feelings.

 

At an agreed-upon signal, partners externalize the energy flow, imagining it moving a short distance away.

 

Continue movement and deep breathing and send the feelings, breath, and attention into the externalized state entity.

 

In their own minds, partners may communicate with the entity, learning its name, symbols, purpose, and anything else that may
be relevant.

 

If the partners have a previously agreed upon goal or objective for the operation, both imagine what the attained goal would look like, feel like, sound like, taste like, and smell like. As each sensory representation of the goal arises in your mind, send it to the externalized entity. If there is no specific goal for the operation, then continue to communicate and learn from this “third mind” in whatever way the entity chooses.

 

Increase movement, breathing, and rhythm until the operation reaches a climax. Give as much of the experience of orgasm to the entity, to empower the goal.

 

Thank the entity, thank each other, then each partner reabsorbs as much energy and imagining as they put forth.

 

Banish the ritual area.

 

Partners withdraw from the ritual area and spend a few moments contemplating and discussing their experience.

Some principal variations on the exercise include:

 

Split the state entity in two, with each half identical to the whole. Partners can carry these with them in their hearts after the ritual as a means of bonding or creating a continued heightened state.

 

Use the state entity to empower an imagined human-figure entity, as in Instant Empowerment.

 

Maintain the ritual prior to when the state entity is externalized, accentuating and prolonging the energy flow in your bodies for an indefinite period of time.

 

Use the state entity to empower a sigil.

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